Day 18 – December 18, 2024

Day 18

...Quiet Corner (to escape to)?

Welcome to Day EIGHTEEN of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Today’s letter is Q and you guessed it right if you thought I’d choose Quiet or Quiet Corner (to escape to) during the noisy festivities. A very personal festive hideaway for much needed instant calm.

I recommend creating a quiet corner, your ‘haven’ during the festive period where you can escape to and re-centre yourself. It may only be a corner of a room, or a whole room if you have that luxury.

Fill it with your favourite things – a current book (I always have a Donna Ashworth to hand), a scented candle, a fluffy blanket, a healing crystal, your noise-cancelling earphones, or whatever will help you to nestle down and feel better in a matter of moments.

The purpose of your quiet corner is to act as your own personal retreat where you can block the world out, even if just for a few precious minutes.

Think of it as your sanctuary amidst the festive chaos and let people know that (unless disaster is ensuing) you’re not to be disturbed when in this space.

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It’s your personal energy recharging station. I don’t know an introvert who doesn’t need that!

This space doesn’t just offer physical comfort; it’s a place to reset mentally. When the social buzz gets too loud or the demands of the season leave you drained, retreating to your quiet corner can bring instant relief. Breathe deeply, immerse yourself in a soothing activity, or simply sit in stillness. Even a few minutes in your haven can help you recalibrate, ensuring you show up authentically for the moments that truly matter.

Guard this space fiercely and visit it as often as you need as it is your key to flourishing on your own terms this season.

Tomorrow we journey with the letter ‘R’. What word beginning with R would you add to your festive sanity kit? Do you think your and my R will match?

Quietly, and peacefully yours,
-Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 17- December 17, 2024

Day 17

...planning isn’t just a tool.

Welcome to Day SEVENTEEN of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Who doesn’t need a little bit of organisation to feel in control of things over the festive period? Hence today’s letter P is about taking time to Plan. To me, planning is a vital tool for festive serenity for we introverts.

But, planning isn’t just a tool.

It can be one of your most valuable superpowers in this festive whirlwind.

For we introverts, crafting a plan means designing our commitments in a way that works for us, that brings us a sense of safety and calm. It begins by things as simple as deciding which events, traditions, or moments you genuinely care about and map them out like the treasure they are.

Say yes to what fills your cup and no to what drains it.

Sharing your plans with those closest to you not only sets expectations but also creates space for you to meet your needs. After all it is festive season for all, including you, the quiet, gentle, thoughtful introvert – isn’t it?

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But here’s the paradoxical thing – as Dwight D. Eisenhower said, “Plans are nothing; planning is everything.” What this means is the very process of planning allows you to understand the real nature of what needs doing, so that you know where there is room for flex, if and when needed.

It’s extremely rare for us to be able to stick rigidly to our plans and actually, that’s not the point.

Whether it’s the big family meal prep plan, or the complex arrangements, or being clear about who needs to be where and when, transparent plans offer a potential lifeline to harmonious authenticity.

Consider your options carefully if someone tries to disrupt your carefully curated plan with last-minute demands or invitations. Your consideration should include the power of a gracious no or an authentic yes – your choice. And that choice is made easier because you understand the implications.

Dare I say, start planning now and let the season dance to your rhythm.

Tomorrow we conquer Q – and spoiler alert, as much as some of you may say it is Queen of Introversion, it is not. What word beginning with Q would you crown as your sanity tool? Can’t wait to see if we match!

Quietly, and intentionally yours,
-Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 16- December 16, 2024

Day 16

...Optimism is all about possibilities.

Welcome to Day SIXTEEN of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Today we’re adding a word to our Seasonal Sanity Savers that this world needs a lot right now, and of course, it starts with ‘O’.

What did you guess?

Well our contribution is Optimism.

Now, for the overthinkers and catastrophisers amongst us, this might feel like a stretch, so stay with me for a moment whilst I explain.

Optimism is about expecting the best and seeing possibilities this festive season. However, let’s not confuse toxic positivity with optimism as they are poles apart.

Every day, in fact every moment of every day we have choices about how we see and show up in the world.

• Glass half empty, pessimistic and what some might try to justify as realistic. Those who use this approach say it prevents disappointment.
Or,
Glass half full, optimistic and looking for the best in every situation. Even in the challenging ones.

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Fret not though because this isn’t about forcing cheerfulness or ignoring challenges – in fact, quite the opposite. And there’s a really good, scientific reason for adopting this attitude.

As humans, we are energy and our energy vibrates at different frequencies according to our thoughts and beliefs. That may sound a bit woo to you, but stay with me again.

There is a school of thought that I not only believe in but have experience of which is that we attract what we put out into the world.

So, here’s an experiment for you to conduct over this festive season. Expect things to turn out well and give them your all. Thoughts become things remember. You see, whatever approach we take, our behaviour aligns with our expectations.

Optimism is about being discerning about what deserves your energy and attention. Let it guide you towards activities and people that nourish you, rather than drain you. And, know that you are resourced and capable even when in draining situations.

I’m pretty sure that some of the tools I shared prior to this will come handy too.

WOW, time is flying. We are moving towards the letter P tomorrow. What word starting with P would you pick for your festive sanity kit? Let’s see if we agree!

Quietly, and optimistically yours,
Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 15- December 15, 2024

Day 15

...the power of a nap.

Welcome to Day FIFTEEN of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Who doesn’t love a nice nap? I know I do.

You guessed it today’s letter N is for Nap, a simple yet powerful tool to refresh and recharge your heart, body and mind – all within minutes.

In the whirlwind of the season, never underestimate the power of a nap. It’s often easier when we’ve indulged in seasonal fare too.

Contrary to the stigma built around us, rest isn’t indulgent; it’s essential, especially for we introverts as we navigate the festive social demands. A quick snooze can recharge our mind, balance our mood, and give us the much needed the stamina to rejoin the merriment on your own terms.

Whether it’s a cosy 20 minutes on the sofa, what my husband calls combat sleep, or the longer 40 winks during a quieter day, I think of it as a gift we give to ourselves and those around us. After all, a rested you is capable of more for self and others, than the exhausted you, right?

Feeling drained after a gathering or before heading to one?

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Block out some downtime for a nap without guilt. Shut the door, dim the lights, and let yourself drift off, for as much time as you can manage. It’ll take a while to get used to if you’re not in the habit of taking naps, but that’s okay because new habits take a while to embed.

And when napping isn’t an option, try a restful pause, a meditation moment (yesterday’s letter M) to find a moment to close your eyes, breathe deeply, and let your thoughts settle.

It is time that you honour your need for restoration. It will make it much easier to embrace the season authentically.

Tomorrow brings us to O! What word beginning with O would you add to your sanity kit? Have a guess, and let your imagination run free!

Quietly, and restfully yours,
-Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 14- December 14, 2024

Day 14

...the liberating art of letting go

Welcome to Day THIRTEEN of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Today’s marvellous letter is J, and we’re diving into the art of flourishing joyfully this festive season. So ‘Joy‘ seems only appropriate – but not the big, grand moments but the small, quiet sparks that light you up from the inside.

Make a list of the things that truly bring you joy. Keep it personal: think of cosy moments, favourite treats, or solitary walks that recharge your soul. Once you have your list, choose one thing each day to weave into your festive rhythm.

Maybe it’s a morning tea ritual before the world wakes, or escaping into a good book between gatherings. Joy doesn’t have to be loud; it can be as soft as a sigh of relief when you honour what makes you happiest.

Carry this list with you, peek at it daily, and let it guide you to show up as your truest self, energised and at ease.

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And here is beautiful poem from my favourite, Donna Ashworth –

“Joy Chose You”

Joy does not arrive with a fanfare

on a red carpet strewn

with the flowers of a perfect life

joy sneaks in

as you pour a cup of coffee

watching the sun

hit your favourite tree

just right

and you usher joy away

because you are not ready for her

your house is not as it should be

for such a distinguished guest

but joy, you see

cares nothing for your messy home,

or your bank balance

or your waistline

joy is supposed to slither through

the cracks of your imperfect life

that’s how joy works

you cannot truly invite her

you can only be ready

when she appears

and hug her with meaning

because in this very moment

joy chose you.

Quietly, and joyfully yours,
-Joanna


Tomorrow’s letter is K, any guesses? If you had to pick a positive word starting with K to add to your own festive sanity kit, what would it be? Let’s keep flourishing, one joyful step at a time.

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish