Day 23 – December 23, 2024

Day 23

... visualise your best day.

Welcome to Day TWENTY THREE of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

What will your ideal day look like?

Today’s letter is V and I am gifting you the ability to visualise your best day so you can then invest yourself into make it a reality.

I know the festive vortex can be a lot for we introverts. While extraverts derive their energy and cheerfulness from all the noise and exuberance, we introverts need to balance our socialising with effective pre-charging and re-charging.

So how about we take a quiet moment away from the mayhem and visualise our ideal day.

Close your eyes.

Imagine this day in as vivid detail as you can.

What would a calm, fulfilling, and truly joyful day look like for you?

Picture how you would feel, the pace of the day, the activities you’d choose, and the energy you’d carry. Maybe it’s an afternoon walk in the crisp air or a relaxed gathering with close friends. The thing is, that visualising isn’t just daydreaming, far from it.

It is an intentional practice and investment to set the tone for how you show up and what you create.

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To make this vision even more powerful, I suggest you write it down as though it’s already happened. For example:

“Today, I embraced peace. I enjoyed a slow morning, felt grounded during conversations, and ended the day feeling replenished.”

I don’t know about you but when I write things down in my own hand writing, it helps me clarify my desires and nudges my brain to focus on the steps to bring it to life. It helps me craft my day, my intentions, my vision into a synergetic symphony to create a flourishing day of my choosing.

So I invite you to try doing this little exercise too. Once you have that picture in mind, ask yourself:

“What small actions can I take today to move closer to my desired reality?”

Maybe it’s saying no to a draining invite or scheduling an hour of solitude to recharge. It does not have to be a long list of to-do’s you know!

You have the power to create the experience you want, even during the festive chaos. Start small, stay consistent, and trust that your vision will guide you towards flourishing on your terms.

On that note, tomorrow we venture into the world of letter W. What word would you choose to keep your peace intact? I am curious to watch what your word will be, and no, my word is not ‘watch’. *chuckles*

Quietly, and visually yours,
Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 22 – December 22, 2024

Day 22

... it is time to unplug!

Welcome to Day TWENTY TWO of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

It is that time of the year, isn’t it? To unplug.

That’s right, today’s letter is U and the word is Unplug so you can power down and find true calm and peace. We introverts need it at this time of the year.

The festive season can be a sensory whirlwind, leaving even the most resilient of we introverts craving quiet. That’s where the art of unplugging becomes your secret weapon. Whether it’s stepping away from the noise of social media, turning off notifications, or carving out an hour to be gloriously unreachable, unplugging allows you to breathe, recalibrate, and return to yourself.

For some, this might mean yoga, meditation, or soaking up the stillness of nature.

For others, it could be as simple as curling up with music that soothes your soul.

This reminds me of the beautiful piece by Emily W,

Unplug

My heart finds comfort in the growth and happiness of others.
I am at peace in the feel of my fingers against the smooth keys of a piano.
I am proud of the people who inspire others even when they have no inspiration.
I love playing in the rain and looking at the smiles of my friends.

But most of all, I love that I can pick up a pen and some paper and unplug myself from the world.
I unplug myself from the outlet of negativity,
Unplug myself from all this senseless worry,
Overwhelming the circuits of my heart with a burst of electric peace.

The words I write become a gateway to my soul.
They create a universe where I can hear the beat of my heart and know I am still alive.
A place free of expectations that I cannot reach.
A world where I finally feel that it is okay to be me.

I can lose the voice in my head telling me there’s no point in my existence.
I can ignore the feeling that I will never live up to everyone’s expectations.
I finally break free of the weight that has become accustomed to my shoulders.
All that remains is my words, freeing me; mind and soul.

I find peace in the sound of a pen scratching along a piece of paper.
I find joy in the words that I never knew I had inside me.
I celebrate when I am able to unplug from the cold world we live in,
And plug in to my beating, feeling heart.

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What’s your favourite way to unplug and unwind?

Make time for it today. A little unwinding time for ourselves is not a luxury, but a necessity, a responsibility even, towards our own wellbeing.

Give yourself permission to disconnect from the external chaos and reconnect with your beating, feeling heart.

It is not about shutting the world out completely.

It is about creating space to listen to what you truly need amidst the season’s demands.

Do this so you can emerge feeling more centred, authentic, and ready to navigate the festivities on your own flourishing terms.


So, tomorrow’s letter is V. What would it be for you? Can you guess what I have chosen it to be?

Let me know if you have one in mind!

Quietly, and unapologetically yours,
Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 21 – December 21, 2024

Day 21

... traditions are lovely, but..

Welcome to Day TWENTY ONE of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

For today’s letter T, I chose the beautiful and heartwarming word ‘traditions’, but with a twist (ah see another T word). Let us make some new traditions, ones that truly align with our core being and values.

Traditions are lovely, but who says they can’t evolve to reflect who YOU are?

My dear introvert friend, this festive season, consider swapping out rituals that drain your energy for ones that celebrate your introverted spirit. Start and promote a tradition that is focused on our authentic way of being as we introverts flourish truly well when we can be ourselves.

Maybe,

  • Create a cosy evening of reading your favourite book by fairy lights
    – A quiet walk through nature,
  • Or, an intimate dinner with your nearest and dearest.
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To me, the beauty of starting your own traditions is the freedom to design experiences that nourish you, rather than exhaust you. As a bonus, you get to celebrate them with those who align with your energy and celebrate you as you are.

Change is constant and so can we introverts, as individuals. If long-standing traditions do not resonate anymore, it is time we give ourselves permission to adjust to evolve into what really works for us, or even let them go.

A word of caution though, please start small.

Perhaps an annual solo outing to a café you love or a digital-free day to recharge. These can be moments of joy that reflect your values and help you connect to the season in your own way. Remember, traditions aren’t meant to be burdens; they’re meant to bring meaning and comfort, so make them work for You, so you can flourish as the person you are.

Wow, the clock is ticking fast. Tomorrow’s letter is U, and I’d love to know the word that comes to your mind to bring a little extra peace to your festive toolkit?

Let your imagination roam!

Quietly, and tenderly yours,
Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 20 – December 20, 2024

Day 20

...Do you stretch?

Welcome to Day TWENTY of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Do you stretch? Well I think we all should!

You guessed it, for today’s letter S I have chosen Stretching, just like animals do, because it is great for our mind and body. So what say you, let’s limber up for festive flourishing, shall we?

Have you ever noticed how naturally animals stretch as they start to move?

Cats arch their backs, dogs stretch out their front legs, and they do it with such ease and grace. If you’ve ever been to yoga, you’ll be familiar with the alternate cat and cow move and the downward dog pose I’m sure. What an amazing way nature has of gifting them something that’s good for their wellbeing.

Taking a cue from them, weaving gentle stretches into your day can do wonders for the mental and physical well-being of we introverts. The thing is, that stretching isn’t just about flexibility. It is a moment to reconnect with your body and calm a busy mind.

When festive demands leave you frazzled, take a minute to stretch. How about you just try and reach for the ceiling, roll your shoulders, or try a simple spinal twist whilst you’re sat in your chair. These small pauses release tension, improve circulation, help you breathe more deeply, and bring you back to your centre, no matter your age, gender or body type.

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This season, why not make stretching a mindful ritual?

Pair it with something you love, like listening to soothing music or standing near a sunny window. Morning stretches can prepare you for the day, while evening ones can signal it’s time to unwind.

Think of it as your secret tool to stay grounded while the festive world spins around you.

Tomorrow, Tomorrow, Tomorrow .. Oh I beg your pardon I started singing. Well tomorrow’s letter is T, and I’m curious as to what word would you choose to tuck into your sanity toolkit?

Give it a thought and share if you’d like!

Quietly, and stretching-ly yours (LOL)
Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 19 – December 19, 2024

Day 19

...Reconnect, this time with ourselves

Welcome to Day NINETEEN of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Today’s letter ‘R’ is so important for we introvert. I am choosing today’s word to be Reconnect, this time with ourselves. Make time for a little check-in on our own wellbeing.

Replenishing your energy is non-negotiable during the festive rush, however the reality is that true recharging starts with reconnecting to your needs.

Pause for a moment today and ask yourself these questions,

“What am I really feeling right now?” And be honest with yourself as a superhero stance when you’re trying to reconnect with yourself won’t cut the mustard.

“What do I really need right now?” This is about seeing where you may need to adjust your plan in order to meet your needs. It’s no crime to look out for your own needs, in fact, it is our responsibility to do so.

It could be as simple as more rest, a nourishing meal, or even a few minutes of uninterrupted and complete silence. Treat this practice like a therapeutic check-in with your inner being. By getting back into alignment with your needs, you can sidestep unnecessary overwhelm and make choices that honour your boundaries. Because remember, explicit boundaries are beautiful!

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Now, take it a step further and think about your emergency IRK (Introvert Recharging Kit) and yes I totally created that abbreviation right here, right now and I am claiming it as mine. LOL! (No but seriously, I am)

What are the essential go-to tools, activities, or comforts that instantly make you feel centred?

Perhaps it’s your favourite playlist.
A journal to clear your thoughts.
Maybe a long walk away from the crowds.

Make sure you have easy access to your essentials, and please remember that reconnecting with yourself isn’t selfish, far from it. It is your secret to flourishing amid the loud and non-stop festive cheer.

Tomorrow we move to S! If you had to pick a word starting with S to add to your festive sanity kit, what would it be? Let’s see if we’re on the same page!

Quietly, and selflessly yours,
Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 18 – December 18, 2024

Day 18

...Quiet Corner (to escape to)?

Welcome to Day EIGHTEEN of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Today’s letter is Q and you guessed it right if you thought I’d choose Quiet or Quiet Corner (to escape to) during the noisy festivities. A very personal festive hideaway for much needed instant calm.

I recommend creating a quiet corner, your ‘haven’ during the festive period where you can escape to and re-centre yourself. It may only be a corner of a room, or a whole room if you have that luxury.

Fill it with your favourite things – a current book (I always have a Donna Ashworth to hand), a scented candle, a fluffy blanket, a healing crystal, your noise-cancelling earphones, or whatever will help you to nestle down and feel better in a matter of moments.

The purpose of your quiet corner is to act as your own personal retreat where you can block the world out, even if just for a few precious minutes.

Think of it as your sanctuary amidst the festive chaos and let people know that (unless disaster is ensuing) you’re not to be disturbed when in this space.

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It’s your personal energy recharging station. I don’t know an introvert who doesn’t need that!

This space doesn’t just offer physical comfort; it’s a place to reset mentally. When the social buzz gets too loud or the demands of the season leave you drained, retreating to your quiet corner can bring instant relief. Breathe deeply, immerse yourself in a soothing activity, or simply sit in stillness. Even a few minutes in your haven can help you recalibrate, ensuring you show up authentically for the moments that truly matter.

Guard this space fiercely and visit it as often as you need as it is your key to flourishing on your own terms this season.

Tomorrow we journey with the letter ‘R’. What word beginning with R would you add to your festive sanity kit? Do you think your and my R will match?

Quietly, and peacefully yours,
-Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 17- December 17, 2024

Day 17

...planning isn’t just a tool.

Welcome to Day SEVENTEEN of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Who doesn’t need a little bit of organisation to feel in control of things over the festive period? Hence today’s letter P is about taking time to Plan. To me, planning is a vital tool for festive serenity for we introverts.

But, planning isn’t just a tool.

It can be one of your most valuable superpowers in this festive whirlwind.

For we introverts, crafting a plan means designing our commitments in a way that works for us, that brings us a sense of safety and calm. It begins by things as simple as deciding which events, traditions, or moments you genuinely care about and map them out like the treasure they are.

Say yes to what fills your cup and no to what drains it.

Sharing your plans with those closest to you not only sets expectations but also creates space for you to meet your needs. After all it is festive season for all, including you, the quiet, gentle, thoughtful introvert – isn’t it?

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But here’s the paradoxical thing – as Dwight D. Eisenhower said, “Plans are nothing; planning is everything.” What this means is the very process of planning allows you to understand the real nature of what needs doing, so that you know where there is room for flex, if and when needed.

It’s extremely rare for us to be able to stick rigidly to our plans and actually, that’s not the point.

Whether it’s the big family meal prep plan, or the complex arrangements, or being clear about who needs to be where and when, transparent plans offer a potential lifeline to harmonious authenticity.

Consider your options carefully if someone tries to disrupt your carefully curated plan with last-minute demands or invitations. Your consideration should include the power of a gracious no or an authentic yes – your choice. And that choice is made easier because you understand the implications.

Dare I say, start planning now and let the season dance to your rhythm.

Tomorrow we conquer Q – and spoiler alert, as much as some of you may say it is Queen of Introversion, it is not. What word beginning with Q would you crown as your sanity tool? Can’t wait to see if we match!

Quietly, and intentionally yours,
-Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 16- December 16, 2024

Day 16

...Optimism is all about possibilities.

Welcome to Day SIXTEEN of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Today we’re adding a word to our Seasonal Sanity Savers that this world needs a lot right now, and of course, it starts with ‘O’.

What did you guess?

Well our contribution is Optimism.

Now, for the overthinkers and catastrophisers amongst us, this might feel like a stretch, so stay with me for a moment whilst I explain.

Optimism is about expecting the best and seeing possibilities this festive season. However, let’s not confuse toxic positivity with optimism as they are poles apart.

Every day, in fact every moment of every day we have choices about how we see and show up in the world.

• Glass half empty, pessimistic and what some might try to justify as realistic. Those who use this approach say it prevents disappointment.
Or,
Glass half full, optimistic and looking for the best in every situation. Even in the challenging ones.

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Fret not though because this isn’t about forcing cheerfulness or ignoring challenges – in fact, quite the opposite. And there’s a really good, scientific reason for adopting this attitude.

As humans, we are energy and our energy vibrates at different frequencies according to our thoughts and beliefs. That may sound a bit woo to you, but stay with me again.

There is a school of thought that I not only believe in but have experience of which is that we attract what we put out into the world.

So, here’s an experiment for you to conduct over this festive season. Expect things to turn out well and give them your all. Thoughts become things remember. You see, whatever approach we take, our behaviour aligns with our expectations.

Optimism is about being discerning about what deserves your energy and attention. Let it guide you towards activities and people that nourish you, rather than drain you. And, know that you are resourced and capable even when in draining situations.

I’m pretty sure that some of the tools I shared prior to this will come handy too.

WOW, time is flying. We are moving towards the letter P tomorrow. What word starting with P would you pick for your festive sanity kit? Let’s see if we agree!

Quietly, and optimistically yours,
Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 15- December 15, 2024

Day 15

...the power of a nap.

Welcome to Day FIFTEEN of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Who doesn’t love a nice nap? I know I do.

You guessed it today’s letter N is for Nap, a simple yet powerful tool to refresh and recharge your heart, body and mind – all within minutes.

In the whirlwind of the season, never underestimate the power of a nap. It’s often easier when we’ve indulged in seasonal fare too.

Contrary to the stigma built around us, rest isn’t indulgent; it’s essential, especially for we introverts as we navigate the festive social demands. A quick snooze can recharge our mind, balance our mood, and give us the much needed the stamina to rejoin the merriment on your own terms.

Whether it’s a cosy 20 minutes on the sofa, what my husband calls combat sleep, or the longer 40 winks during a quieter day, I think of it as a gift we give to ourselves and those around us. After all, a rested you is capable of more for self and others, than the exhausted you, right?

Feeling drained after a gathering or before heading to one?

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Block out some downtime for a nap without guilt. Shut the door, dim the lights, and let yourself drift off, for as much time as you can manage. It’ll take a while to get used to if you’re not in the habit of taking naps, but that’s okay because new habits take a while to embed.

And when napping isn’t an option, try a restful pause, a meditation moment (yesterday’s letter M) to find a moment to close your eyes, breathe deeply, and let your thoughts settle.

It is time that you honour your need for restoration. It will make it much easier to embrace the season authentically.

Tomorrow brings us to O! What word beginning with O would you add to your sanity kit? Have a guess, and let your imagination run free!

Quietly, and restfully yours,
-Joanna

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish

Day 14- December 14, 2024

Day 14

...the liberating art of letting go

Welcome to Day THIRTEEN of our A-Z+ of Seasonal Sanity Savers – 2024.

Today’s marvellous letter is J, and we’re diving into the art of flourishing joyfully this festive season. So ‘Joy‘ seems only appropriate – but not the big, grand moments but the small, quiet sparks that light you up from the inside.

Make a list of the things that truly bring you joy. Keep it personal: think of cosy moments, favourite treats, or solitary walks that recharge your soul. Once you have your list, choose one thing each day to weave into your festive rhythm.

Maybe it’s a morning tea ritual before the world wakes, or escaping into a good book between gatherings. Joy doesn’t have to be loud; it can be as soft as a sigh of relief when you honour what makes you happiest.

Carry this list with you, peek at it daily, and let it guide you to show up as your truest self, energised and at ease.

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And here is beautiful poem from my favourite, Donna Ashworth –

“Joy Chose You”

Joy does not arrive with a fanfare

on a red carpet strewn

with the flowers of a perfect life

joy sneaks in

as you pour a cup of coffee

watching the sun

hit your favourite tree

just right

and you usher joy away

because you are not ready for her

your house is not as it should be

for such a distinguished guest

but joy, you see

cares nothing for your messy home,

or your bank balance

or your waistline

joy is supposed to slither through

the cracks of your imperfect life

that’s how joy works

you cannot truly invite her

you can only be ready

when she appears

and hug her with meaning

because in this very moment

joy chose you.

Quietly, and joyfully yours,
-Joanna


Tomorrow’s letter is K, any guesses? If you had to pick a positive word starting with K to add to your own festive sanity kit, what would it be? Let’s keep flourishing, one joyful step at a time.

Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEOFlourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-FounderIntent to Flourish