And the scary season begins..
Nugget of the Week
Don’t be too quick to rule out an opportunity. I know I’ve recommended that you become discerning about which invitations to accept, but being hasty maybe a mistake.
One thing I have noticed is that if I feel a little fear or anxiety about an invitation, it’d be all too easy to immediately decline and use my need for replenishment as a reason (or excuse).
But here is what I’ve realised. Those very things that stop me in my tracks and question myself are quite possibly the things that will give me the opportunity to grow. And as human’s we’re pre-wired to learn & grow.
So the question I now ask myself is what could I learn about myself or my client base and their challenges by accepting this opportunity?
This simple question has delivered significant return on investment in terms of my knowledge, understanding and confidence. And if I’d declined, I’d be the poorer for it.
This Sh** Really Happened!
When I arrived in London on Monday afternoon, it was tipping down with rain, so I did what any sensible person would do and I took a Black Cab. Did I say sensible?
I thought I was being sensible, but there were several factors that I hadn’t accounted for. Lots of road closures and my driver – Alan.
I began to wonder if there was something wrong with Alan’s cab as it was behaving like a kangaroo; not a pleasant experience. I debated about mentioning this but could see he was an older guy who probably wouldn’t respond well to a woman questioning his driving.
After about 20 minutes of kangarooing at a snail’s pace, I said “Traffic is slow tonight Alan“. Talk about small-talk! But as we know, it’s the gateway conversation starter.
Alan then slid open the divider and said “It is, and forgive me I have a speech impediment.” I said that’s not a problem and we started a more meaningful conversation during which Alan told me in stilted fashion that he was lucky to be alive. Apparently, a few years ago he collapsed (previously undetected hole in his heart) and as he lived on his own, went a few days before someone found him. I immediately felt shame at my judgement of Alan’s kangaroo driving.
For the rest of the journey I was happy to engage Alan in meaningful conversation knowing that once his shift was over, he’d be going back to his empty flat, devoid of company of conversation until his next shift.
Introverts are human too and therefore need connection too. On our own terms.
Coming up, Buttercup!
I can’t look ahead to December without feeling mixed emotions – slight dread at the insanity that often prevails and excitement as I now have tools to handle this season.
Impending insanity because we’re now firmly into the so called ‘festive season’ but that’s not how it feels to many of us.
Of course we introverts will be expected to participate in all the extraverted gatherings with a smile on our face when we’d probably rather stay home and avoid all the noise. But, if we do that we know we’ll be judge as anti-social, boring, stick-in-the-muds. Either that or just plain rude!
However, we know that we’re not anti-social, we’re selectively social. We tend to operate on a different ‘channel’ and need our pre-charging, recharging and a side of intentional self-care.
So many years ago now, I came up with something that I am told time and time again has helped many introverts to cope with the festivities, show up to social gatherings and events whilst maintaining their sanity.
Intrigued?
Then you’ll want my Seasonal Sanity Savers.
They are daily hints, tips and self-care reminders for every day throughout December, not just Advent.
Why?
Because the stress and pressure of social, workplace and family expectations lasts for the whole month, so it makes sense to have support for the whole month.
What better way to counter feeling depleted and defeated than a daily nudge, a delicious moment of calm amidst the chaos and a pragmatic reminder to look after your wellbeing.
Of course, if you want to go through December feeling dread and despondency, you can always ignore this offer.
But if you’re ready for another way, sign-up here.
It costs you nothing and may just save your sanity!
Watch this amazing episode of
(dropping) Pebbles in the Pond,
featuring Frea O’Brien
Making a decision about when to play to which of your introverted strengths is a real gift that can move the needle when you’re feeling stuck. Frea gave us a challenge during her appearance on PITP which Shelley has already accepted and actioned.
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Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker | Trainer | Founder, CEO – Flourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge | Co-Flourisher, Co-Founder – Intent to Flourish
