Inclusivity – but HOW? (Ep 237)

Behind the Scenes - Week 36

Nugget of the Week

You might think that some workplace situations are not appropriate for bringing out childlike behaviour. Think again.
I was delivering a course on Presentation Skills this week in a client’s office. We had a great day and there were lots of golden nuggets shared as we explored the why, how and what of presenting an often dry subject. At the end, the group gave me a round of applause, and I spontaneously curtsied, just as I would have done as a child. That provoked more laughter, which was a great way to end what had been an insightful and beneficial day.

This Sh** Really Happened!

So, these price hikes then, what if I were to tell you that I’m talking percentage increases in the hundreds, not just the tens! Really. I don’t begrudge anyone increasing their prices – heck I do that myself, and that’s because I’m a business not a charity. But there’s good business and then there’s greedy!

To add insult to injury, I got the email about the latest automatic price hike the day it would be billed! Being customer focused this is NOT!

It smacks of ‘take it or leave it’ arrogance, and I’ll give you two guesses as to what I’ll be doing. Yep – they got an email from me, and regardless of whether they read it or not, I have the right to respond to their notification.

Coming up, Buttercup!

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Reflections Week 39 of 2025

What’s the difference between letting go and simply avoiding what feels uncomfortable?

Avoidance is about shoving things into the cupboard and hoping the door holds. The problem is, we introverts know that what’s hidden still weighs heavy in our minds.

Letting go is different. It’s the courageous choice to face the discomfort, name it for what it is, take the learning, and then release it. Avoidance numbs, but never heals.

Letting go clears the ground so we can grow.

If that lands for you, continue reading the message in Blue Box in the newsletter, as next I talk about how the seasons themselves can help us make peace with these shifts.

How can introverts reframe the changing seasons of life so they feel like opportunities rather than losses?

Each season is a mirror.

Autumn teaches us the beauty of release, winter gives us permission to rest, spring offers renewal, and summer lets us celebrate. When we see life this way, seasons stop being markers of decline and start being invitations to shift our energy.

As introverts, we can thrive when we align with these rhythms instead of fighting them. Loss turns into space. Change turns into opportunity.

To understand how I honour those seasons in my own life, even when it feels hard, check out the closing section in the newsletter.

It is never too late!

It is never too late!

Nugget of the Week

You are never too old and it is never too late to understand and pursue your ‘why’.

Let me say that again because I know firsthand how easy it is for our inner-critic to tell us otherwise. Mine, who you know is called Gladys loves making it about herself and enjoys sending me on self-doubt trip.

So for you, and for myself let me say it again and loudly (yet gently) that You have not missed the boat. You are not too old.

In meeting up with a group of business women who were all part of a Mastermind about 8 years ago, I was reassured that even though I am the eldest, the rest are not far behind me in age, and you know what? We are far from done yet!! (and can you hear the sass in the voice of my words?). Absolutely all of us are flourishing in our so-called Third Age.

We are discovering, evolving, and stepping into our passions with confidence and determination because when you feel fiercely passionate about your why, you take it up as a mission and you advocate with all you’ve got.

Sometimes, it may take a little longer than you thought, but once you recognise the one thing that sets your soul alight, your inner voices says, ‘THIS is what I am meant to do!’; and you own it with pride.

You become an advocate. You become the voice and force of the mission you take up. And oh it feels good. And we all know the best chapters often come much later in the book. Right?

This Sh** Really Happened!

Believe it or not, my children’s book ‘Quiet Is Fun Too’ is now listed on Waterstones. YAY!

No literally, this one is a big deal for me. My book just got listed in Waterstones; one of the biggest and most prestigious bookstores of UK. This is HUGE!

I am not taking this for granted. Being in Waterstones really is next-level credibility.

Although, aspirational as I am I’d like to see my book at the top of their page in ‘Waterstones Children’s Book Prize’ shortlist. Now that is something I look forward to.

Would you rally with me in sharing the word about the book, buy copies and gift them to schools, libraries, playgroups in your community?

Let’s normalise inclusion of introverts from their early childhood, together, as parents, caregivers and educators, what say you?

Coming up, Buttercup!

It is happening. The ‘Not Just Lip Service’ podcast is coming soon to your ear pods.

I am very excited that we are starting to record our brand new podcast, Not Just Lip Service, with my colleague/friend, Intention Strategist – Szebastian Onne G. S.

We all know, now more than ever we need leaders to go beyond lip service as the anti-DEI wave is trying to sweep through the boardrooms, of course led by broligarchs who it seems would love nothing more than to return to the ‘old’ ways when women belonged in the kitchen and others forms of discriminations were acceptable.

We truly need to double-down on Diversity, Equity and Inclusion with genuine action, to prove that we the inclusive leaders are committed to inclusion and a meaningful change on the ground, not just papers.

Szebastian and I bring unique perspectives and communications styles rooted in shared values and aim to challenge the status quo because empty words are just not going to cut it.

Speaking of behind-the-scenes, let me share the challenge I faced this week. It was the weather, because I am a bit of a SAD Sufferer and don’t do well without sunshine. Because of the constant grey and rain, I haven’t moved enough this week. Thankfully it looks like the sun is going to shine brighter today so I am looking forward to that.

Thankfully though, the best thing that happened for me this week was reconnecting with the women leaders I met in the mastermind that I mentioned earlier. We all agreed that meeting each other was the best outcome of the mastermind.

On that note, I hope you found this week’s reflection useful and these behind-the-scenes sneak-peeks uplift your spirit and help you flourish in your journey. I wish you a very Happy Valentine and a beautiful weekend.

Quietly, and gratefully yours,
Joanna

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Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEO – Flourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-Founder – Intent to Flourish

The week of Big Decisions

The week of Big Decisions

Nugget of the Week

 I’ve spoken before about surrounding yourself with the right people and for the last 10 days or so, I really have felt the warmth of those who are on the same page as me. And I’m rather overawed.

I’m overawed because it made me realize just how rarely this has happened in my life. And you know my first reaction was a bit of disbelief, a few moments of ‘this is too good to be true’. Because everyone warns us that if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. So, you can hardly blame me.

And yet, I also know the power of optimism and that was the letter ‘O’ in this year’s Seasonal Sanity Savers. I grew up in a very practical and pragmatic household, and yes here is a difference between these two for me.

I was encouraged to be optimistic as a child on the grounds that it fostered the growth mindset (not that we knew that term back then) and enabled the flexibility of approach required to create a pragmatic solution to a problem.

Anyway, I’m now feeling very blessed that I have so many who are supporting my current endeavours. I’ve never liked the term tribe, but I am enjoying the gathering of my guild.

This Sh** Really Happened!

I delivered a disastrous training session, and I do mean the very worst anyone could ever imagine. To make matters worse, all of the bigwig, high powered commissioning clients witnessed it.

I’ve never felt so humiliated or incompetent, so it was a good thing it was only in my dream! I mean how could ALL of my commissioning clients have been in the same event? That would never happen.

I am often staggered at how real dreams are and how they have the ability to rob me of precious restful sleep, because they are so real. This particular dream happened after 6 am when I knew I needed a few more Zzzzzs.

If any of you are dream analysts, I’d love to know what this one means. I was in a large hall like training room, too large for the small number of delegates in attendance.

We were hours into the training when the AV started playing up and rather than showing a video I’d chosen, it kept showing a ball game. I went to get it fixed and when I returned, the large room was now full of people very disgruntled who didn’t really know why they were there.

Worse than that, these bigwig commissioning clients, most of whom I’ve not seen for years and who no longer work for their respective organisations, had clipboards ready to ‘mark’ me.

I went to retrieve my own trainers notes only to find they had been covered by loads of paperwork that the bigwigs had brought. Finding mine would have taken too long so I started to walk the room as I introduced an exercise. My voice was so slurred that I could barely understand what I was saying. At that moment, the clipboards got a lot of attention and several delegates walked out.

I was distraught.

Then the commissioning clients went into a huddle, looked over their shoulders at me and then left.

One whose face was really familiar came in for a hug but I turned away.

I rarely refuse a hug so this much have been serious.

Those sort of dreams are really disconcerting to me – and the fact that I remember so many details must mean there’s a message there for me.

Can anyone help me out?

Most of us dream, even if we don’t remember them and here’s some of the learning I have chosen to take from this one.

If dreams are the way our brain processes the happenings of the day,

  •  Be prepared that one day, all of my key stakeholders might meet and talk to each other. Will they share a consistent, congruent, & compelling impression of what I do and why?
  • When I am launching exciting new projects, consider whether it is better to have more capacity than I might need or make it standing room only? A recent training I attended suggested the latter, so that’s what I’ll probably go with.
  • Always have an AV/tech team on hand (thank you my Intentional team) and prepare an alternative low tech delivery method so that I can deliver whatever I need to without the tech if needed.

I wonder what lessons you would have chosen?

One thing for sure though, I’m not letting this spook me. It could easily lead me into catastrophisation but it was only a dream. Let’s keep that in perspective.

Coming up, Buttercup!

Join me on 2nd January 2025 for a transformative webinar, empowering introverts to step into their strength, while equipping allies to amplify their presence. It is time to rattle cages as a collaborative force.

Trust me, the team and I had different choice of words but we’ve toned it down for the faint hearted.

In a world that often favours the loudest voices in the room, we introverts are frequently overlooked, underestimated, or excluded, if not always. One of my senior executives even reminded me of a mention of ‘Extravert Ideal is the last acceptable bias’ in my Reflections newsletter. And it so is.

But not anymore.

Those who know me for a while know every year on 2nd January I celebrate the World Introvert Day by gifting a FREE webinar to my audience. This year, I aim for this webinar to begin a transformative introvert rebellion. It is time for the Sassy Introverts to show-up proud and strong.

In 2025, one area of focus is to empower introverts to step into their strength, show up authentically, and create spaces where they are seen, heard, and valued. This is how we ensure we are not denied access, because that’s not happening, not on my watch anyway!

This isn’t just about introverts finding their voice.

It is time to go one step further, and also equip our allies to stand besides us, amplifying our presence and ensuring the introverts are sidelined no more. I’ll share more over the next few days, so I invite you to join me on 2nd January 2025 as we being the year authentically, with determination to rattle cages and shift the needle towards inclusion.

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Intuition is the truth from within

Intuition is the truth from within

Nugget of the Week

 I have a curious nugget to share this week, and it’s being moved to take action. There have been several things over the last few weeks that have angered me and for once, I’ve not just let them drop.

In the past, when things have angered me on social media which is usually opinions stated as fundamental truths, I feel the anger and then move on once the feelings have subsided.
I don’t know whether it’s the sass rising, or the ‘end of termishness’, or my age, but I’m taking more of a stand these days. And it feels good!

I realise that this maybe an unusual thing for an introvert to do, but now that I have found my voice and am using it for good more often, I don’t want to ‘pipe down’ or sit back down.

I’m prepared to be the lone voice, the tall poppy who stands head above the rest and is seen when others are ducking out of sight. And I firmly believe that when enough of us do this, our message can’t be ignored.

Obviously, I’m selective about what I stand up for or against as I only have so much energy so I want to make sure it sustains me. But here’s why I believe this is a nugget; when we remain silent, we’re actually colluding. Our silence can rightly be taken as assent or approval. Are you really happy for that to be the case?

I’ll leave you to ponder that and reach your own conclusions.

This Sh** Really Happened!

 I have a belter this week! When a big name that I admire greatly, has a guest on their podcast talking about introversion but they mislead the audience with their ‘researched’ data.

This left me absolutely livid and spitting feathers because that’s now millions of people (that’s how many followers he has) who now are misinformed which will set our cause back considerably.

The bold claim that this body language expert made was that more than 80% of people are Ambiverts which the ‘expert’ being interviewed claimed is between introversion and extraversion. WRONG! She (almost) correctly said that introverts get their energy from being on their own and extraverts get their energy from being with people but then it all went horribly wrong.

She said that if you get your energy from being with the right people in the right environment, or can dial up your extraverted behaviours for an interview or something important, then you’re an ambivert. We all know that introverts can do that for a certain period of time but when their batteries drain, it’s off for some solo recharging. Staying in that environment when depleted leads to overwhelm then the introvert hangover and finally introvert burnout.

But thanks to this body language expert, the myths and misunderstandings are deepened, when I’ve been trying to bust them.

Let me be clear – being an introverted extravert does not make you an ambivert. Being an extraverted introvert does not make you an ambivert. And ambivert is someone who is equally recharged by being quiet or by being in any company or interaction. It literally doesn’t matter to them.

Grrrr!

Coming up, Buttercup!

It isn’t really inclusive leadership if the leaders are looking at DEI as a tick-box exercise. Inclusion is a serious responsibility and together we must create aware to ensure it is ‘Not Just Lip Service’.

While this photo may depict a happy mask with a sad face,  and I will share what one of my senior team members said –  I’m absolutely delighted to announce that on 18 December 2024, Szebastian Onne G. S. and I will be launching our collaborative audio event series, Not Just Lip Service (NJLS).

NJLS isn’t just another talking shop. It is a bold, thoughtfully produced series designed to ignite meaningful conversations that drive real, tangible change in the business world and beyond.

Our premiere episode takes a deep dive into Leadership and Inclusion. Let’s face it, in a world where Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) too often gets reduced to tick-box exercises, it’s time to call that out. True inclusion demands more than surface-level commitments or polished policies. It calls for Intentionality, Action, and Accountability to ensure everyone, from the first to the last member of the community, has equal opportunities to flourish.

And here’s the truth: if leaders are treating DEI as a compliance exercise, then they’re missing the point entirely. Inclusive leadership requires courage, care, and a willingness to truly embrace the full spectrum of human diversity.

To kick things off, our inaugural episode features a dynamic panel discussion with four brilliant voices from across the globe. Representing diverse industries and perspectives, they’ll unpack the challenges and opportunities of creating genuinely inclusive spaces. Two esteemed guests will join Szebastian and I, ensuring a rich conversation from four unique corners of the world.

For all the event details, click the banner or buttons below. 

Let’s make sure DEI is Not Just Lip Service but a living, breathing, sustained commitment to a better future.

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If you rate the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify as well as Like, Comment and Share the YouTube video you will be helping other fellow introverts who may find this content helpful, encouraging them to live a more fulfilled and authentic life. 

As ever, I am here in your corner to advocate for you.

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Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEO – Flourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-Founder – Intent to Flourish

There is never a good reason

There is never a good reason

to throw people under the bus

Nugget of the Week

 I’m not if this is a nugget or a truth-b*mb, but here it is anyway. Identifying as an introvert does not necessarily limit you to a life of solitary confinement where you are unable to engage with life.

I’ve been shocked at some of the questions asked in many of the introvert groups on social media this week and it’s reinforced why I wanted Introvert’s Corner to be very different. The questions posed demonstrate clearly just how much misunderstanding there is about what introversion is and isn’t including the regular conflation of concepts and issues. 

Here are a selection of some of the posts.

  • INTROVERTS on SOCIAL media, something doesn’t sound right
  • I’m single and I find it so hard to break the ice and talk to women.
  • Can introverts make friends?
  • I’m so introverted that I cry when go to public bathroom. What should I do?
  • Who just wants to stay in bed all day and never leave the house?
  • Most introverts are quiet because they are scared of people judging them
  • No matter how I try to blend with humans, I’m still alien.. I can’t act like them, I can’t talk like them…

Some of these posts hurt my heart and upset me that these people think all of their problems boil down to their introversion. And because we all know that introversion on its own doesn’t need fixing, some are left confused thinking that their behaviour is natural for all introverts.

Fact – Introversion itself is not something that you need therapy or treatment for.

On the other hand, Social anxiety, depression, misanthropy, shyness, low self-esteem, a lack of confidence and poor communication skills are all things that can be changed or improved, if you so choose.

Please don’t allow yourself to conflate issues and problems that can be improved when you work with the right person with your natural introversion.

This Sh** Really Happened!

Eeek – I’ve been in front of the camera again which is not something I usually enjoy. However, when you find a photographer who completely ‘gets you’, it’s a whole different experience.

Back in the spring of 2022 based on the recommendation of someone I really trust, I booked a photoshoot with Brigitta of Nux Photography

As you might imagine, I rather nervous at meeting a new person for the first time who I was immediately going to trust with capturing the essence of who I was. I need not have worried though.

Whilst lively, bright and larger than life, Brigitta identifies as an introvert, so was able to empathise with me and build rapport really quickly. And the outcome was an array of fabulous pics that I’ve been using for the past two and a half years. But that length of time in business when you’re my age is long enough for things to change significantly and the last thing I wanted was for my photos not to reflect who I am now.

And so on Monday of this week, I spent a glorious few hours in the company of Brigitta and her daughter, properly laughing with them as I followed their directions. And I was in good company as also having their photos taken were Nicola and Michelle. That’s not all though – it gets better. My dear friend Helen, a talented beauty therapist kindly came with me to be my make-up artist for the day. It was such fun to watch Helen taking photos of Brigitta taking photos of me!

I’ll soon be able to share some of the official pics and I think you’ll be able to see just how at ease I was.

And, I challenge anyone who says introverts are invisible or like to hide all of the time. Not this one.

Coming up, Buttercup!

It isn’t really inclusive leadership if the leaders are looking at DEI as a tick-box exercise. Inclusion is a serious responsibility and together we must create aware to ensure it is ‘Not Just Lip Service’.

This week, for the Buttercup segment, I give the stage to Szebastian, my colleague and co-founder of our brand ‘Intent to Flourish’. – Joanna Rawbone

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Thank you Joanna.

I am thrilled to share that on 18 December 2024 we are launching our collaborative Audio Event series – Not Just Lip Service (NJLS).

NJLS is an an innovative audio series dedicated to sparking meaningful conversations that lead to real action in business world and humanity at large.

In the premiere episode, we are focusing on Leadership and Inclusion. In a world where Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion (DEI) are often treated as mere checkboxes, we aim to discuss and challenge this mindset by exploring the profound responsibility of creating truly inclusive spaces.

Wouldn’t you agree that it isn’t really inclusive leadership if leaders view DEI as a tick-box exercise. Inclusion is more than policies on a piece of paper – what we need it Intentionality, Action, Accountability, for true and equal flourishing of the first to last member of our community.

DEI is Not Just Lip Service – but a sustained commitment – one that requires genuine and intentionally inclusive leadership.

The inaugural episode will feature an engaging panel discussion with four voices from across the globe, offering unique perspectives on this pressing issue. The panel includes two esteemed guests alongside our dynamic hosts, all representing diverse industries and viewpoints from four different locations worldwide. Check-out full details of the event here. 

You can join us on LinkedIn or click the buttons below to play on the destination platform of your choice.

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Released this week by the House of Flourishing Introverts. 

If you rate the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify as well as Like, Comment and Share the YouTube video you will be helping other fellow introverts who may find this content helpful, encouraging them to live a more fulfilled and authentic life. 

As ever, I am here in your corner to advocate for you.

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Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEO – Flourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-Founder – Intent to Flourish

Learning is a journey of trust

Learning is a journey of trust

Nugget of the Week

There is an old saying which goes “A problem shared is a problem halved”. In the grip of a problem, we’re think we’re being considerate by keeping it to ourselves.

This became really relevant for me this week as a good friend was clearly struggling, but reluctant to ask for help as they didn’t want to trouble anyone else.

But there is real substance behind that old saying which in this age of anxiety, were someone dies by suicide every 90 minutes here in the UK, we’d do well to remember. Sharing with those we trust is not burdening them, it truly is lightening our varied loads.

  • It can provide emotional relief as you’re expressing feelings and emotions caught in our bodies and brains. As we release what has been trapped, our wellbeing improves. Beware the vulnerability hangover though.
  • It can provide new perspectives not because those you share with automatically offer their point of view, but because as we speak what we’re struggling with, we often hear both the truth and the fantasy, or catastrophised version of the truth.
  • It can help you feel supported. Once you truly know that not only are you not alone, but that others genuinely care for you, you can rest easier. Remember we are all human and therefore built for connection; the right type of connection.

All it takes is for you to have both a felt sense and the knowledge that you are safe, with yourself and your chosen sharing partner. I consider it one of the highest compliments anyone can give me.

In Photo: My friend and official photographer – Brigitta (NUX) Scholz Mastroianni

This Sh** Really Happened!

One of the delegates said at the end of the training “Can I have you on speed dial please Jo?” Whilst this may seem quite flattering initially, it’s not quite as it seems.

Now why might I not be flattered? Well, as a change agent, facilitator and coach, I want people to feel confident enough to apply the learning, and if they feel they need me in their back pocket or on speed dial, my job is not yet complete.

One of the ways I measure success in my role is when I’m no longer needed – A bit like Nanny McPhee. I still remember her infamous line “There is something you should understand about the way I work. When you need me but do not want me, then I must stay. When you want me but no longer need me, then I have to go.”

Here’s what I need to clarify though – did this delegate want me more than she needed me? If that’s the case, then I am safe to go and leave her to apply her learning. If not, then I’d be better doing something pretty soon to reinforce her learning and make it stickier.

Maybe I’ll be more Nanny McPhee in future and ask that question.

 

Coming up, Buttercup!

Does this time of year have you feeling more No, No, No than Ho, Ho, Ho? Don’t despair, my Seasonal Sanity Savers are getting their annual overhaul.

It took me a few years to educate my nearest about how draining I found the whole ‘festive season’. I’d developed a number of ways to keep myself from feeling overwhelmed one day ate a time and they turned into my popular Seasonal Sanity Savers. I mean, why keep something to yourself, when they can help other people.

My husband is so on board with my (and now our) need for calm that he often jokes that we should keep the curtains closed and tell everyone we’ve gone away for Christmas.

So tempting.

Anyway, if you struggle as I did (and sometime still do), make sure you opt-in for my daily hints, tips and boundary reminders that are proven to work. You’ll receive an email every day throughout December, because the stress and pressure of social, workplace and family expectations lasts for the whole month.

And if you are already awash with emails and receiving one more a day through December would just add to your overwhelm, you’ll be delighted to know we’ve thought of that too! You can now access them via LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. 

I can’t think of a better way to counter feeling depleted and defeated than a daily nudge, a delicious moment of calm amidst the chaos and a pragmatic reminder to look after your wellbeing.

It costs you nothing and may just save your sanity!

Hot off the Press

Released this week by the House of Flourishing Introverts. 

If you rate the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify as well as Like, Comment and Share the YouTube video you will be helping other fellow introverts who may find this content helpful, encouraging them to live a more fulfilled and authentic life. 

As ever, I am here in your corner to advocate for you.

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Cage Rattler & Bias Shifter – Helping organisations unlock potential by shifting extraversion bias | Coaching quiet leaders | TEDx Speaker |  Trainer | Founder, CEO – Flourishing Introverts | Host – The Flourishing Introvert Talks and (dropping) Pebbles in the Pond | Author – The Flourishing Nudge  | Co-Flourisher, Co-Founder – Intent to Flourish

And the scary season begins..

And the scary season begins..

Nugget of the Week

Don’t be too quick to rule out an opportunity. I know I’ve recommended that you become discerning about which invitations to accept, but being hasty maybe a mistake.

One thing I have noticed is that if I feel a little fear or anxiety about an invitation, it’d be all too easy to immediately decline and use my need for replenishment as a reason (or excuse).

But here is what I’ve realised. Those very things that stop me in my tracks and question myself are quite possibly the things that will give me the opportunity to grow. And as human’s we’re pre-wired to learn & grow.

So the question I now ask myself is what could I learn about myself or my client base and their challenges by accepting this opportunity?

This simple question has delivered significant return on investment in terms of my knowledge, understanding and confidence. And if I’d declined, I’d be the poorer for it.

This Sh** Really Happened!

When I arrived in London on Monday afternoon, it was tipping down with rain, so I did what any sensible person would do and I took a Black Cab. Did I say sensible?

I thought I was being sensible, but there were several factors that I hadn’t accounted for. Lots of road closures and my driver – Alan.

I began to wonder if there was something wrong with Alan’s cab as it was behaving like a kangaroo; not a pleasant experience. I debated about mentioning this but could see he was an older guy who probably wouldn’t respond well to a woman questioning his driving.

After about 20 minutes of kangarooing at a snail’s pace, I said “Traffic is slow tonight Alan“. Talk about small-talk! But as we know, it’s the gateway conversation starter.

Alan then slid open the divider and said “It is, and forgive me I have a speech impediment.” I said that’s not a problem and we started a more meaningful conversation during which Alan told me in stilted fashion that he was lucky to be alive. Apparently, a few years ago he collapsed (previously undetected hole in his heart) and as he lived on his own, went a few days before someone found him. I immediately felt shame at my judgement of Alan’s kangaroo driving.

For the rest of the journey I was happy to engage Alan in meaningful conversation knowing that once his shift was over, he’d be going back to his empty flat, devoid of company of conversation until his next shift.

Introverts are human too and therefore need connection too. On our own terms.

Coming up, Buttercup!

 I can’t look ahead to December without feeling mixed emotions – slight dread at the insanity that often prevails and excitement as I now have tools to handle this season.

Impending insanity because we’re now firmly into the so called ‘festive season’ but that’s not how it feels to many of us.

Of course we introverts will be expected to participate in all the extraverted gatherings with a smile on our face when we’d probably rather stay home and avoid all the noise. But, if we do that we know we’ll be judge as anti-social, boring, stick-in-the-muds. Either that or just plain rude!

However, we know that we’re not anti-social, we’re selectively social. We tend to operate on a different ‘channel’ and need our pre-charging, recharging and a side of intentional self-care.

So many years ago now, I came up with something that I am told time and time again has helped many introverts to cope with the festivities, show up to social gatherings and events whilst maintaining their sanity.

Intrigued?

Then you’ll want my Seasonal Sanity Savers.

They are daily hints, tips and self-care reminders for every day throughout December, not just Advent.

Why?

Because the stress and pressure of social, workplace and family expectations lasts for the whole month, so it makes sense to have support for the whole month.

What better way to counter feeling depleted and defeated than a daily nudge, a delicious moment of calm amidst the chaos and a pragmatic reminder to look after your wellbeing.

Of course, if you want to go through December feeling dread and despondency, you can always ignore this offer.

But if you’re ready for another way, sign-up here.

It costs you nothing and may just save your sanity!

Watch this amazing episode of

(dropping) Pebbles in the Pond,

featuring Frea O’Brien

 

Making a decision about when to play to which of your introverted strengths is a real gift that can move the needle when you’re feeling stuck. Frea gave us a challenge during her appearance on PITP which Shelley has already accepted and actioned.

Visit her website right here.

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Behind-the-scenes: WEEK 33

Behind the Scenes - Week 33

Nugget of the Week

We sometimes hear that introverts are not good friends as they don’t communicate freely or honestly. We are accused of being anti-social, disinterested and disconnected.

I disagree. And here’s why.

This is just one of the myths around introversion that because we’re not speaking all of the time, we don’t speak when it matters. We do, provided there is a strong enough bond or an important enough reason. If not, then nah! I’ll keep my thoughts to myself.

When introverts have strong relationships, they can be the MOST honest ‘critical friend’. You know, the one who tells you not what you want to hear, but what you need to hear.

That’s the type of conversation I had with one of my best friends this last week. I held the silence as he digested my words.

I didn’t appease.

I didn’t change what I’d said.

I held the space whilst he reflected. It was powerful and we both commented about how we value that we can have these conversations without worrying about our friendship.

This approach plays to our strengths of listening empathically and not filling the silence, so give it a go.

This Sh** Really Happened!

If you’ve followed me and my work for a while, you will know quite a lot about Gladys and her antics. She’s a handful to say the least, and not in a good way!

I have done so much work to understand what she’s trying to keep me safe from (the role of all inner critics) and we normally have a great working relationship now.

BTW, don’t believe anyone who tells you that you can ‘turn’ your inner critic into a fan – it doesn’t work like that. Anyway, Gladys snuck up on me when I was least expecting it this week and her intervention knocked me for six. 

I started doubting myself and my work – was it making the difference I intended?

It was and it is as testimonials routinely demonstrate.

So, with the help of my brilliant team I thanked her for keeping a watchful eye and packed her off again, to enjoy the last of the summer.

Ice creams all round? Actually, make mine an Aperol Spritz!

Coming up, Buttercup!

As you know, at the House of Flourishing Introverts, we are celebrating August as the ‘Introvert Celebration Month’ – and as part of that celebration I am offering once in a life time, never to repeat again bonuses with my Flip Your Limiting Beliefs course.

I understand just too —a lifetime of feedback can leave us feeling ‘less than’ in some way.

However, we are far from ‘less than.’ When we recognise that we are ‘more than,’ we unlock our potential to create a life we love, to believe in ourselves, and to intentionally hold firm boundaries.

My course is designed to guide you on this flourishing journey, empowering you to take control and make meaningful, lasting changes.

If you’re tired of thinking you can’t and ready to say ‘watch me’, it’s time to consider the Flip Your Limiting Beliefs course.

Offer ends on August 20. Sign-up!

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Got a question? Contact my team at quietly@flourishingintroverts.com  

Behind-the-scenes: WEEK 32

Behind the Scenes - Week 32

Nugget of the Week

Choosing to see things through a different lens and perspective changes the whole picture. What could you reframe for a better outcome? It is easy for we introverts to get caught up in overthinking and catastrophizing, letting self-doubt cloud our judgment.

Our inner-critic, mine is called Gladys – can get us ruminating and making mountains out of molehills. However, if we intentionally and consciously reframe how we look at challenges and obstacles, we can turn obstacles into opportunities for growth.

Instead of focusing on how we might fail, if we invest ourselves in recognising our strengths and uniqueness that has helped us succeed in the past, we can truly change the game.

We introverts need to reframe our perspective to look at challenges as opportunities for growth and resilience. Less anxiety, more power, just exactly what we need.

This Sh** Really Happened!

Well, this week I also want to share two testimonials in ‘This Shi* Really Happened!’ because there is ‘Shi*’ and there is ‘Good Shi*’ and what I am about to share is some GREAT SHI*!

A company's VP called about my Podcast

Remember the person who gave me the feedback on my podcast?

It was the VP of an Australian Consulting Firm operating across 4 continents, who was touched by the ripples of my work. To my absolute surprise, the VP directly called me to say this..

“I handled ‘The Difficult’ with all project leaders as well as the CEO, equipped with clarity and a decisive action strategy by listening back to your episode 3 times this morning. Some of the long pending decisions were discussed and finalised in a single 35 minute group call. All I needed was to be ready to deal with the difficult with confidence. Everything is now moving the way I wanted 6 months ago. I have now subscribed.”

I absolutely recognise the significance of a multi-national company’s Vice President taking time out of their day. In that moment, and as the call ended, I knew that the ripples I’m creating have a far reaching effect.

One that I may never know the extent of.

Unexpected Heartwarming Public Testimonial

And as I hinted in the Reflections newsletter 02 of August 2024, it amazes me that wherever I go, someone is excited to tell me about how my work has positively impacted them, and it still gives me a little tingle which in turn inspires me on my mission.

A little while ago, at the start of a business retreat, we were doing our initial introductions around the table and I saw the woman sat opposite fix her gaze on me.

She then asked “Are you the Joanna who creates the Flourishing Introvert Talks podcast?”.

I said yes quietly.

She then said so excitedly and what was a completely heartwarming testimonial in front of whole audience, “I can’t begin to tell you how much your podcast has helped me. I’m here today on this retreat because you gave me the confidence to start my own business.”

I was struggling to hide my happy tears, and the introvert in me wanted to hide but in that moment I celebrated her kind testimonial with utmost gratitude.

The two real-life and unsolicited testimonials I shared above, are shared with a curious blend of pride and humility.

Evidence of more ripples!

And the BAD Shi*!

Finally, the ‘oh what!‘ kinda shi* that happened – I was lied to by an agent when buying a tech service, so I escalated issue, booked a call with their ‘coach’, got a refund and a spectacular deal.

But it gets worse!!! I found out the following day that the problem hadn’t been completely sorted so when I called again, a third agent tried to get me to unpick what the second had done.

Fortunately, they transferred me to the ‘termination’ department who confirmed that the second agent had given me the right advice and they just needed to do one more thing their end!

As you can imagine, I was tearing my hair out by this point, but credit where it was due, calmness saved the day. Let that be a reminder to us all.

Shi* happens but it can usually be sorted out with time, patience and good intentions.

Coming up, Buttercup!

As you know, at the House of Flourishing Introverts, we are celebrating August as the ‘Introvert Celebration Month’ – and as part of that celebration I am offering once in a life time, never to repeat again bonuses with my Flip Your Limiting Beliefs course.

I understand just too —a lifetime of feedback can leave us feeling ‘less than’ in some way.

However, we are far from ‘less than.’ When we recognise that we are ‘more than,’ we unlock our potential to create a life we love, to believe in ourselves, and to intentionally hold firm boundaries.

My course is designed to guide you on this flourishing journey, empowering you to take control and make meaningful, lasting changes.

If you’re tired of thinking you can’t and ready to say ‘watch me’, it’s time to consider the Flip Your Limiting Beliefs course.

Offer ends on August 20. Sign-up!

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Got a question? Contact my team at quietly@flourishingintroverts.com